Quiz Page – Sam Mbeki

Where are you on the influence journey?

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How often do you and your teen talk openly about daily life or feelings?

Question 1 of 12

Rarely or never

Occasionally, if I initiate

Often, and we both share

Very often, with honest dialogue

Almost daily, we talk about everything

None

When your teen faces a dilemma, how likely are they to come to you first for advice?

Question 2 of 12

They avoid my input entirely

They might grudgingly ask if desperate

They sometimes seek my insight

They usually come to me before anyone else

I’m their go-to guide without hesitation

None

After an argument, do you and your teen address the issue or just let it linger?

Question 3 of 12

We avoid each other for days

We might circle back but usually not

We talk it out half the time

We make an effort to clarify & move on

We consistently resolve conflicts quickly

None

Does your teen feel comfortable bringing sensitive worries or fears to you?

Question 4 of 12

They never confide, I’m the last to know

They’ll only share if it’s mandatory

They sometimes open up when prompted

They trust me enough to be honest

They see me as their safest emotional outlet

None

Do you sense your teen trusts you enough to share both big and small mistakes?

Question 5 of 12

They hide almost everything

They admit issues only when caught

They share some mishaps but hold back

They’re candid about most mistakes

They openly share all setbacks, trusting my guidance

None

Are household rules and consequences clearly defined and fairly applied?

Question 6 of 12

Everything’s unpredictable

We have rules, but they change with my mood

Fairly consistent, but sometimes I’m lax

We have clear, stable guidelines

Our rules are unwavering yet fair

None

How well do you know your teen’s current interests, challenges, and friends?

Question 7 of 12

I’m mostly in the dark

I know bits and pieces

I have a decent grasp

I’m quite in tune with their world

I’m fully updated on who/what matters to them

None

How often do you acknowledge your teen’s efforts (not just results)?

Question 8 of 12

Rarely ever praise them

I only praise when something major happens

I compliment them on effort occasionally

I regularly highlight their hard work

I make it a point to celebrate every step

None

Do they consider your insights or do they rely on peers/outsiders first?

Question 9 of 12

They always go elsewhere

They reluctantly ask me last

They sometimes weigh my input

They often check with me before finalizing

I’m their first and most trusted advisor

None

How often do you let your teen make certain choices—knowing they might fail—so they learn from them?

Question 10 of 12

I rarely allow independent decisions

I step in quickly if things go wrong

I let them choose sometimes

I encourage them to try and self-correct

I consistently allow learning through experience

None

Do you schedule regular family time or 1-on-1 moments for genuine conversation?

Question 11 of 12

We barely share time

We sit together occasionally

We talk but it’s not always quality

I plan some special moments

We regularly make space for deep connection

None

When your teen is stuck, do you guide them with problem-solving skills or just give directives?

Question 12 of 12

I usually just dictate the fix

I try but often end up telling them what to do

I give some tips but can overstep

I focus on teaching them to find solutions

I mentor them to own the process entirely

None